It winds you back to re-run scenarios for situations that have already passed in your own life, or the life of another.
Yet, for many, the word forms a large part of daily conversation and also self-talk. I should have, you should have……you know what I mean, the re-playing of scenarios, normally when they didn’t go to plan. Such self-talk is self destructive, punishing you by going back unnecessarily to outcomes which have already been decided on the basis that they are already history.
There is a very simple way to put an end to the self-talk, replace ‘should’ with ‘could…..but I didn’t.”
For example, “I should have left half an hour earlier to miss this traffic” becomes “I could have left half an hour later to miss this traffic, but I didn’t, so there’s a lesson learned for next time.” This has the impact of shutting down the self-talk in your brain, instead of letting the limbic (irrational) part of your brain rampage across your thought processes.
Prioritising your thinking for creation is what it’s all about. De-cluttering your thoughts in the same way you would de-clutter a house is the order of the day, leaving space for thoughts of potential and reducing post-scenario analysis, which has little benefit in being re-run when the outcomes are already determined.